It has only lost a member of the family. First off, acknowledges that if it was a dog, cat or even a goldfish, your pet was part of his family as well as any other Member, and as such will have feelings of loss that are so strong and real. This is not only good but totally normal. Let it cry!
Apply the same stages of pain associated with the death of a loved human. These are, respectively, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
With the loss of any person which means a lot to you, you will pass by and accept these stages of pain to move forward and reach a point where available with affection in the memory of his old friend furry (or scales).
To those who may not understand or do not see a pet as nothing more just a pet, you can find defending his pain. If you find anyone like this who considers that his four-legged friend is not worthy of this degree of pain, can maintain its, not respond negatively, and even have sentence him for not having known the joy and love to bring a pet to a family.
We know that even if the above steps are the same regardless of who you are, the process is very personal and can be different for each person. Some people take more time than others to go through the process of mourning and some cope better than others. In any case, we know that it is normal and even necessary to pass this period of mourning and hope that this will make the experience easier one.
A suggestion useful for relieving her distress could include favorite toy of your pet or blanket to take something from it as a souvenir. Another idea is to find a special way to pay tribute to your pet. It could have a family ceremony you and allow each Member of the family to talk about what I wanted to say to each one of them. Younger children may benefit even more than that by which they are allowed to create something special to be buried with the animal, or create a memorial, say in the courtyard, a place to "visit".
And leave your feelings, not bury them. Write in a diary or express them through poetry, not keeping them bottled. In addition, find someone to share their feelings with that understanding and non-critical. If necessary, and that you simply cannot move forward (and the impact is much along with other areas of your life) does not rule out the idea of advice. Don't be afraid to ask for any help you need.
These days is much easier to find support in general – look online for chat groups or find a local support offline group. Nothing helps to know others are experiencing the same loss you and shared stories and feelings can be very therapeutic.
After some time has passed and you have fact some healing you may think about how to obtain a new mascot. This could come up with some reservations and possibly feelings of guilt. Just know that when the time comes and is ready to love and care for a companion again, this is not a replacement - will you simply add a new Member to its family.
And remember, the duel has is the price we pay for having loved and been unconditionally loved by your pet and eventually, confident that his pain will be replaced for happiness and good memories when you think about your pet.
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